The child we were once, continues to live inside us influencing every thought, every emotion, every movement and every action. Many of us in adult bodies still react like children, still attached to parents, never having broken free from the attitudes and beliefs acquired in youth. This inner baccha(child) is part of our personality which is playful and spontaneous, having fun and craving to be cared and understood.
Like a real child, the inner baccha is starved of love, warmth and understanding, is easily hurt and may become depressed and withdrawn. Psychologists say that the inner child is a permanent fixture and those who become hurt easily or depressed on an innocent remark are still preserving that inner child demonstrating the traits through their behaviour. Jiddu Krishnamurthy during one of his sermons narrated the story of two monks- One old and the other young. They reached a river bank at sunset and saw a young woman sitting helpless as the last boat had already left. She was frightened too because of the surrounding forest area where wild animals roamed about and came to the river to drink water. Realising her predicament, the elder monk volunteered to carry her across the river, the water being shallow.
After reaching the opposite bank, the Monk put her down and the two monks renewed their conversation while proceeding to the monastery. After a while, the young Monk told the older One: “You should not have carried that woman across the river as you have violated the rules of celibacy”. The elder Monk replied: “I put her down an hour ago but you are still carrying her in your thoughts”. The elder Monk has his aldult mould and the younger one still carried the child within.
We all know that the past is dead but we carry it in our thoughts. Man can change only if the past is detached, forgotten or erased. There are some people who recall and relieve their past days, expand the sorrow and make themselves miserable. We can’t have a better tomorrow if we are thinking about yesterday all the time. There are some who breakaway from the routine and do something innovative and new, which again is the inner child playing games with new ideas.
Sir Julian Huxley said: “It is all too obvious that in the great majority of human beings, the greater part of their possibilities, whether physical, spiritual, intellectual or aesthetic, remains unrealized”. To enjoy a better life, we must focus on our potential, not our limitations and concentrate on what we do well. We must exploit our natural abilities and aptitudes. The world is full of unsuccessful people who have talent but lack confidence and tenacity, who feel that no matter how good they are at something, someone else is bound to be better. But, what prevents this individual to become better than before, higher than before and attract recognition than before? Benjamin Franklin, one of the signatories of the American Declaration of Independence made a list of 17 personal qualities and habits, which he wanted to acquire. He realized that he need not to attempt all the 17 in one go. He worked on one, then another and mastered the 17 habits and completed the entire cycle three times in a year. EPICTETUS wrote: “Nothing great is created suddenly any more than a bunch of grapes. If you say to me that you desire grapes, that requires time. Let it first blossom, bear fruits and then ripen”. Two important qualities essential for man are patience and persistence. Lasting change takes time and when the going gets tough, how much better we feel when we achieve something worthwhile by sticking to it. Thousands of people have talents. But the question is how many of us have the patience to discover it through persistence and staying power? People who take risks invite failure but at the end it is success, when we stay with it. Henry Ford the car-maker said: “Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more intelligently”. When we take the plunge, few feel terrified but within a short time, we are able to do everything which we had set out to do. Confident self-talk helps us feel better to handle problems more easily. Words and sentences that imply that we are helpless and incapable or interpreting that things are worse than they actually are, feeds the person with potentially damaging ammunition creating negative thoughts and negative results”. Issaac Bashevis Singer wrote: “If you keep on saying that things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a Prophet”. Two qualities that are essential for bulding a happy and fulfilling life are Prayer and Patience.
The challenge is to be Yourself in a world trying to make you like everyone else. To preserve individuality, we should avoid being a carbon copy or duplicate of someone whom we may admire.
Like a real child, the inner baccha is starved of love, warmth and understanding, is easily hurt and may become depressed and withdrawn. Psychologists say that the inner child is a permanent fixture and those who become hurt easily or depressed on an innocent remark are still preserving that inner child demonstrating the traits through their behaviour. Jiddu Krishnamurthy during one of his sermons narrated the story of two monks- One old and the other young. They reached a river bank at sunset and saw a young woman sitting helpless as the last boat had already left. She was frightened too because of the surrounding forest area where wild animals roamed about and came to the river to drink water. Realising her predicament, the elder monk volunteered to carry her across the river, the water being shallow.
After reaching the opposite bank, the Monk put her down and the two monks renewed their conversation while proceeding to the monastery. After a while, the young Monk told the older One: “You should not have carried that woman across the river as you have violated the rules of celibacy”. The elder Monk replied: “I put her down an hour ago but you are still carrying her in your thoughts”. The elder Monk has his aldult mould and the younger one still carried the child within.
We all know that the past is dead but we carry it in our thoughts. Man can change only if the past is detached, forgotten or erased. There are some people who recall and relieve their past days, expand the sorrow and make themselves miserable. We can’t have a better tomorrow if we are thinking about yesterday all the time. There are some who breakaway from the routine and do something innovative and new, which again is the inner child playing games with new ideas.
Sir Julian Huxley said: “It is all too obvious that in the great majority of human beings, the greater part of their possibilities, whether physical, spiritual, intellectual or aesthetic, remains unrealized”. To enjoy a better life, we must focus on our potential, not our limitations and concentrate on what we do well. We must exploit our natural abilities and aptitudes. The world is full of unsuccessful people who have talent but lack confidence and tenacity, who feel that no matter how good they are at something, someone else is bound to be better. But, what prevents this individual to become better than before, higher than before and attract recognition than before? Benjamin Franklin, one of the signatories of the American Declaration of Independence made a list of 17 personal qualities and habits, which he wanted to acquire. He realized that he need not to attempt all the 17 in one go. He worked on one, then another and mastered the 17 habits and completed the entire cycle three times in a year. EPICTETUS wrote: “Nothing great is created suddenly any more than a bunch of grapes. If you say to me that you desire grapes, that requires time. Let it first blossom, bear fruits and then ripen”. Two important qualities essential for man are patience and persistence. Lasting change takes time and when the going gets tough, how much better we feel when we achieve something worthwhile by sticking to it. Thousands of people have talents. But the question is how many of us have the patience to discover it through persistence and staying power? People who take risks invite failure but at the end it is success, when we stay with it. Henry Ford the car-maker said: “Failure is the opportunity to begin again, more intelligently”. When we take the plunge, few feel terrified but within a short time, we are able to do everything which we had set out to do. Confident self-talk helps us feel better to handle problems more easily. Words and sentences that imply that we are helpless and incapable or interpreting that things are worse than they actually are, feeds the person with potentially damaging ammunition creating negative thoughts and negative results”. Issaac Bashevis Singer wrote: “If you keep on saying that things are going to be bad, you have a good chance of being a Prophet”. Two qualities that are essential for bulding a happy and fulfilling life are Prayer and Patience.
The challenge is to be Yourself in a world trying to make you like everyone else. To preserve individuality, we should avoid being a carbon copy or duplicate of someone whom we may admire.
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